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Wednesday, May 2, 2007
TEENS AND PUBERTY....AIDS....IV
SOME FAQ’S BY TEENAGERS
BOYS:
What is puberty?
Between the ages of 10 and 14 most boys and girls begin to notice changes taking places to their bodies. These changes which take place over a number of years also include emotional changes and are sometimes referred to as puberty.
The changes take place in all boys and girls but they will start at different times. Generally the changes start later for boys than girls. In some people they start before the age of 10. Other people will only start to change after the age of 14. The changes also take place at a different rate in different people. In some people all the changes take place in 2 years. In other people they can take as long as 4 years.
Puberty starts when extra amounts of chemicals called hormones start to be produced in the body. These hormones guide the changes that take place in the body. As well as causing physical changes these hormones also cause emotional changes to occur.
What are the physical changes that take place in boys?
A boy's voice gets deeper, his muscles develop and his chest gets broader. Hair starts to grow under his arms, and on his legs and face. In due course he will need to start shaving.
During this time his penis and testicles will also grow bigger and longer. Hair, often called pubic hair, will also start to grow at the base of his penis. He will start to have erections and he may have wet dreams.
What is an erection?
An erection is when a boy's penis hardens and lengthens. Most erections are not straight, and tend to either have a curvy bend upwards or to either side. Many boys worry that their penis is smaller than other boys', but most penises are around the same size when erect.
What is a wet dream?
A wet dream is when some semen (the sticky liquid that sperm is part of) comes out from a boy's penis while he is asleep. A boy may remember he had a sexual dream. Or he may just notice a wet patch on his pyjamas or on the sheets when he wakes up.
It is a good idea for a boy to wash his testicles and penis, particularly behind his foreskin if he has one, after he has had a wet dream. Because a boy may develop an infection around his penis and testicles if they are not cleaned regularly, it's a good idea to wash them daily.
What does it mean for a boy's voice to break?
This is just a way of saying that a boy's voice will get deeper. Sometimes it can happen very quickly, perhaps even overnight. Other boys may have a time when their voice is higher at one moment and then lower even a minute later. All boys' voices will eventually settle down and sound deeper (lower pitch).
What can a boy do if He get spots?
Almost everybody has spots at some time during their life. Most young people get spots around puberty. Washing your face more often with mild unperfumed or antiseptic soap and warm water may help. Some people find that not eating certain foods such as chips and chocolate can help. Other people say this won't help because it is the higher level of hormones in the body that is causing the spots to occur. For some people drinking lots of water can be very effective in helping prevent spots.
It is important to try not to pick at, or squeeze, the spots as this can cause them to become infected. It may help to use some special anti-acne cream or lotion. You can buy this from chemists and some. If you get very bad spots, it might be acne which your doctor can help with by giving you pills or special creams.
He gets an erection when he doesn't want to?
He can try sitting down and concentrating on something else.
He is not having wet dreams?
This is nothing to worry about as not every boy has wet dreams.
Someone says he smells?
As boys and girls' bodies develop during puberty so too do their sweat glands. These glands are to help control the body's temperature and result in more sweat being produced. The best way to reduce the risk of smelling is to wash and change your clothes regularly and perhaps use anti-perspirant deodorant on especially smelly areas, e.g. under your arms.
He is being bullied because of his size?
If a boy is being bullied because of his size or for any other reason, then he should talk to an adult.
He is unhappy about the way he looks?
Height and weight are the two things that can particularly worry young people. But try and think about things you like about yourself and the way you look. Also remember that your body is changing and will keep changing.
GIRLS:
What is puberty?
Between the ages of 10 and 14 most boys and girls begin to notice changes taking places to their bodies. These changes which take place over a number of years also include emotional changes and are sometimes referred to as puberty.
The changes take place in all boys and girls but they will start at different times. Generally the changes start later for boys than girls. In some people they start before the age of 10. Other people will only start to change after the age of 14. The changes also take place at a different rate in different people. In some people all the changes take place in 2 years. In other people they can take as long as 4 years.
Puberty starts when extra amounts of chemicals called hormones start to be produced in the body. These hormones guide the changes that take place in the body. As well as causing physical changes these hormones also cause emotional changes to occur.
What are the physical changes that take place in girls during puberty?
A girl's breasts will start to grow and her hips get rounder. Hair will start to grow under her arms. Hair, often called pubic hair, will also grow between her legs. She will also start to have periods.
What is a period?
When a girl "has her period", a small amount of bleeding (a few spoonfuls) takes place from her vagina. The vagina is a small opening that girls have between their legs. The bleeding will last for a few days and usually happens every month. This bleeding is sometimes referred to as menstruation and is not something to be scared of. Some girls get a white stain in their panties before they have had their first period, and this means their first period may begin soon.
Most girls will have their first period between the ages of 11 and 14. But some girls will start as early as 8, whilst others may be as late as 17.
Once a girl has had her period a few times she may notice that her body or mood changes slightly beforehand. For example, her breasts may feel sore, or become larger, or she may get spots on her face. But no one can tell if a girl has her period just by looking at her.
How does a girl stop blood getting on her clothes during her period?
When a girl has her period she can use sanitary towels or tampons to soak up the blood. Most girls start by using sanitary towels.
Sanitary towels are thin pads made of a soft cotton-like material. They are worn by a girl inside her panties. Most towels have a sticky strip on them that sticks the pad to the inside of the girl's panties.
A tampon is like a small rolled up piece of cotton wool with a string at one end. A girl pushes a tampon into her vagina leaving the string hanging outside her body. The string is then used to pull the tampon out. Some tampons also come with cardboard or plastic applicators that insert the tampon for you. As a tampon is put into the vagina there is no problem about going to the toilet when using a tampon.
Sanitary towels and tampons can both be bought in supermarkets and chemists. They usually come in packets of about 10 or 15. Towels and tampons come in different thicknesses so you can use a thicker one when the bleeding is heavier, and thinner ones for lighter bleeding.
In areas where tampons and towels are not available, or are too expensive to afford, many women will use rags or old strips of cloth or towelling to soak up the blood. "Menstrual cups" (small latex or silicone cups that are inserted into the vagina to collect the blood) are also available from chemists in some countries, and most can be washed and reused many times.
How often does a sanitary towel or tampon need to be changed and how do you dispose of them?
A sanitary towel should be changed every few hours during the day, even if the flow of blood is not very great. A sanitary towel can be used overnight without changing. Tampons should be changed several times a day and a tampon should not be used overnight. Changing tampons is particularly important because if a girl forgot to change a tampon for a long time, perhaps 24 hours or more, then it could make her ill.
Used sanitary towels and tampons should be wrapped up and put in a bin. In most women's public toilets there is a special bin in each cubicle which used sanitary towels and tampons can be put in.
Do periods hurt?
Some girls feel uncomfortable or have cramp-like pains when they have periods. For some girls the pain can be quite intense and it may be necessary to talk to a doctor about it. Usually the pain is not very bad and does not last very long. If you have any difficulty you should talk to an adult, as there are a number of things that can be done to help.
When a girl has her period she can do the things she normally does including having a bath or shower. Washing the vaginal area daily helps prevent infections developing. But it's a good idea to wash and dry from front to back to avoid spreading germs to the vagina.
When having a bath the amount of blood will not be enough to change the colour of the water. If a girl is using a tampon she should take it out before having a bath or shower and use a new one afterwards. If a girl wants to go swimming whilst she has her period she should use a tampon rather than a sanitary towel.
When does a girl need to start wearing a bra?
There is no set time when a girl needs to start wearing a bra and some girls go through life never wearing one. Girls who wear a bra usually do so because they feel more comfortable wearing one. Some girls wear a bra only when they are doing sports, others wear one all the time except when sleeping. Bras are made with different size cups for different breast sizes.
Often one breast grows faster than the other. Some girls' breasts remain small throughout their adult lives. Some girls find that their breasts or nipples start to tingle or itch whilst they grow. But these feelings stop when the breast stops growing.
It is not necessary to wear a bra to keep breasts healthy.
What can a girl do if She gets spots?
Almost everybody has spots at some time during their life. Most young people get spots around puberty. Washing your face more often with mild unperfumed or antiseptic soap and warm water may help. Some people find that not eating certain foods such as chips and chocolate can help. Other people say this won't help because it is the higher level of hormones in the body that is causing the spots to occur. For some people drinking lots of water can be very effective in helping prevent spots.
It is important to try not to pick at, or squeeze, the spots as this can cause them to become infected. It may help to use some special anti-acne cream or lotion. You can buy this from chemists and some supermarkets. If you get very bad spots it might be acne which your doctor can help with by giving you pills or special creams.
Her period starts and she doesn't have a sanitary towel or tampon?
A girl can always use something soft like tissues, or rolled-up toilet paper inside her panties to soak up the blood until she can get a sanitary towel or tampon.
Her period starts when she is at school?
If you are at school you should ask a friend or a teacher or other adult if they could help. There might be some sanitary towels in the school office as it quite often happens that a girl's period starts unexpectedly.
Someone says she smells?
As boys and girls' bodies develop during puberty so too do their sweat glands. These glands are to help control the body's temperature and result in more sweat being produced. The best way to reduce the risk of smelling is to wash and change your clothes regularly and perhaps use anti-perspirant deodorant on especially smelly areas, e.g. under your arms. However, most girls do not need to use a vaginal deodorant, and these may cause irritation.
Her period doesn't start when she expects it to?
When a girl first starts having periods they can occur at very irregular intervals. It can often take a couple of years before a girl's periods settle down and occur at regular intervals. The interval between periods is then usually about 28 days (a month).
Changes in your emotions can also cause changes to your periods. For example, worry about a period starting can sometimes cause further delay to the period.
However if you have had sexual intercourse you could be pregnant if your period does not start when you expect it to. You must in these circumstances talk to an adult or see a doctor as soon as possible.
She is being bullied because of her size?
If a girl is being bullied because of her size or for any other reason, then she should talk to an adult.
She is unhappy about the way she looks?
Height and weight are the two things that can particularly worry young people. But try and think about things you like about yourself and the way you look. Also remember that your body is changing and will keep changing.
PUBERTY GENERAL REPRODUCTION:
Some more about a girl's sex organs:
The opening to the vagina is one of three small holes that a girl has between her legs. At the front is the urethral opening which a girl urinates (wees) through. The anus is the opening at the back where she defecates (poos) from.
From the vaginal opening in the middle there is a passageway or tube called the vagina which leads to a girl's internal sex organs. When a girl has her period the blood comes out through her vagina.
Inside the vagina is a thin skin called a hymen. The hymen partly covers the vaginal opening, but there is still enough of a gap for blood to get through.
Another important sex organ is the clitoris. This is about the size of a pea and it is at the front of a girl's outside sex organs. The outer lips (labia) of a girls sex organs, the clitoris and the vaginal opening are together known as the vulva.
Some more about a boy's sex organs:
The boy's sex organs outside his body are his penis and testicles (testes).
A boy's penis hangs down between his legs at the front of his body. The main part of the penis is called the shaft. The end of the penis is called the glans. The foreskin is skin that covers the glans. Usually it can be pulled back quite easily. If it is tight it can be stretched by gently pulling it over the glans. All boys are born with a foreskin, but some have it removed whilst they are a baby. This removal of the foreskin is called circumcision.
The scrotum is a loose wrinkly pouch of skin that hangs down behind a boy's penis. It contains the testicles (testes). As a boy goes through puberty his testicles move lower down his scrotum. One of the testicles usually hangs lower than the other.
Eggs and sperm:
A girl has two ovaries inside her body. These ovaries contain a girl's sex cells or eggs. During puberty the ovaries begin to release eggs. Usually they will release one egg every month. These eggs are very small, each one being no bigger than the head of a needle.
A boy's sex cells are called sperm and they are even smaller than a girl's eggs. At puberty a boy's testicles will start making sperm. Sperm leaves a boy's body through his penis, usually when it is hard and erect. This is known as ejaculation. When a boy ejaculates millions of tiny sperm are sent from his testes up through his penis and out through the end.
When sperm from a boy meets up with an egg from a girl they can join together, and from this a baby grows. This joining is sometimes called fertilisation.
How do sperm and an egg meet? - Sexual intercourse
Sperm and an egg can meet when a boy and a girl have sexual intercourse. Sexual intercourse is when a boy's hard penis goes inside a girl's vagina, and he then ejaculates sperm through his penis.
A boy is physically able to become a parent when he first starts to ejaculate sperm. A girl is physically able to become a parent when her ovaries start to produce eggs.
What happens to an egg if it meets with any sperm?
When an egg is released from a girl's ovaries it travels down inside one of her fallopian tubes towards the uterus or womb. Whilst this is happening the uterus starts to get ready for a fertilised egg by developing a thick lining. If the egg is fertilised on the way, then it settles in the uterus and this is where the baby starts to develop.
What happens to an egg if it does not meet with any sperm?
When the egg is not fertilised, there is no need for the thick lining of the uterus. The lining slowly begins to come away and flows through the cervix or "neck" of the uterus which connects the uterus to the vagina. It then comes out of the girl's body through the vagina. This is the blood that comes out when a girl has her period. As soon as a girl starts to have her period her ovaries start getting ready to release another egg. The length of time between one period and the next is the menstrual cycle.
What are the main physical signs of sexual feelings?
The main sign for boys that they are getting sexually excited is when they get erections.
The main sign for girls is when their vagina begins to get moist. The clitoris gets bigger too.
For both boys and girls when they are sexually excited or "turned on", extra blood comes to the surface of the skin, particularly around the penis and vagina. You can feel warm and sensitive and sexy just about anywhere on your body.
At what age do boys and girls start to get sexual feelings?
A person can have sexual feelings any time in their life, but these change around puberty. You might find some sexual feelings just seem to happen to you. But sexual feelings mostly come about from things you choose to do, either on your own or with someone else.
A main way that people express their sexual feelings is by touching their own genitals. This is called masturbation. Some people don't masturbate at all, or hardly ever. Other people masturbate every day. Masturbation does not cause you any harm.
Some girls enjoy touching their clitoris. Many boys enjoy touching their penis, particularly the tip.
When a person is masturbating they become more and more sexually excited. They may then reach a peak of sexual excitement which is called having an orgasm or "coming". This is when all the tension and excitement that has built up is suddenly released. Boys ejaculate when they have an orgasm and their penis will then go limp.
For many people masturbation is their first sexual experience. Some people refer to masturbation as playing with yourself, or, especially with boys, jerking off, a hand job, or wanking.
Sexual feelings in relationships
When people have sexual feelings for each other they will usually want to do sexual things together. There is no set time or order in which to do things.
They often want to kiss and cuddle and hold hands. When people kiss they sometimes 'French kiss'. This is when both people open their mouths when they are kissing and their tongues touch together.
People also like to touch each other through their clothes or put their hands inside to stroke or touch each other's genitals.
There are a variety of other sexual activities that people will also do including sexual intercourse.
It can seem natural to bring sexual feelings into a relationship. But it can also change how people feel about each other and about themselves. You might want to do something because you feel curious about it. Or because you think it will make you feel good. And you might want to do it because you feel very close to someone.
But it's important not to do any of these things because you feel under pressure. And that you think about the consequences and how you'll feel afterwards.
Sexual intercourse:
Sexual intercourse is when a boy's hard penis goes inside a girl's vagina. This is often called having sex or making love. For many people this can be the most important sexual thing they can do with someone. It can be very enjoyable and fulfilling. For some people it can be the way they can most show their love for each other.
But there are a lot of things to consider. A girl can become pregnant from having sexual intercourse. There are also infections that boys and girls can get if they have sexual intercourse with a person who already has the infection. These are called sexually transmitted infections or diseases. A person can't always tell if they've got one.
You also need to think about your feelings and what you believe. If you have sex because you were pressurised, were drunk or were just curious to know what it would be like, then you may regret it later.
You also need to consider the law. In England it is against the law for a boy to have sexual intercourse with a girl who is under 16.
Pregnancy
If a boy and a girl have sexual intercourse the girl can get pregnant.
She can become pregnant even if:
She has not had her first period;
The boy withdraws his penis from her vagina before he ejaculates;
She is having her period;
It is the first time she has had sexual intercourse.
The first sign that a girl may be pregnant is that her period does not start when she expects it to. If this happens then it is very important to see a doctor or talk to some other adult as soon as possible.
Contraception can be used to prevent pregnancy occurring when a boy and girl have sexual intercourse. Some contraceptives, like the contraceptive pill, are used by girls. Boys can use condoms. Condoms also prevent sexually transmitted infections from being passed from an infected person to another person during sexual intercourse.
Help and Advice
Puberty is a time when you are going through many emotional and physical changes. There may be times when you feel concerned about what is happening to you or how you feel. It can be really hard to do, but it can really help to talk to other people.
It can be really helpful to talk to your parents or guardian. If you can't, or as well as talking to them, there are other people who can help. You might be able to talk to someone at school, either a teacher or another adult.
FAQS:
How does the law in my state/country apply when having sex?
What is the average penis size?
My penis is curved. Is that normal?
Does my vagina look the way it should?
How do you ask someone out?
I think I fancy one of my friends - does this mean I'm gay?
I'm gay and I really like someone but I'm not sure if they're gay too. Should I ask them out?
I want to start using birth control - do I have to tell my parents?
Does sexual intercourse hurt the first time?
Is there anything I can do to reduce the pain the first time I have sex?
I'm not sure I am ready to have sex yet.
Is there a "safe time" to have sexual intercourse?
Can a girl still get pregnant if a boy pulls out before he ejaculates?
Where next?
How does the law in my country/state apply when having sex?
Laws about sex vary depending on which country or which state (if you are in the US) you live in. The most important thing to know however is the age of consent. This is the age at which it is legal to have sex. In England and Wales, the law says that it's illegal for a boy to have sex with a girl or a boy who is under sixteen. In other places, the age of consent may be older of younger than this, and it may be that there is a maximum age gap that is permitted between partners. To find out about the law and the age of consent where you live, please visit our page on Teen sex for further details.
What is the average penis size?
Penis size differs from person to person. The average length when erect is 10-18cm (4-7in) but there maybe some variation between different races and nationalities.
My penis is curved. Is that normal?
It is quite normal for a man's penis to curve or lean slightly to the right or the left when erect. Many men's penises will curve upwards too. If the penis suddenly develops a lump which causes it to bend abnormally however, this should probably be checked by a doctor. It may be a sign of a condition called Peyronie's disease, which isn't life threatening, but may be uncomfortable and require treatment. You can find a diagram of the male sex organs on AVERT's website.
Does my vagina look the way it should?
Vaginas come in all different shapes and sizes, just as other parts of the body do, so there is no set way that a vagina should look.
A woman's sex organs are protected by two thick folds of skin or "lips" called the outer labia. Inside these is another set of lips known as the inner labia. These are thinner than the outer labia and are usually slightly different lengths. In some women the inner labia will stick out below the outer labia. In other women it will be the other way round. Women also have a clitoris, which is a small sensitive bump a little way above the urethra (urine hole) and the entrance to the vagina. You can find a basic diagram of the vaginal area on the AVERT website, but remember, this is just an anatomical drawing - you shouldn't expect your vagina to look exactly like this!
I want to start using birth control - do I have to tell my parents?
In some countries such as the USA and UK, young people are entitled to advice and free contraceptives from their doctor in confidence. If you are unsure or live outside the USA or UK may need to check with your doctor or local clinic what their policy on confidentiality is.
Although it may be embarrassing (both for you and your parents), it can sometimes really help to talk things through with an adult. It's probably a good idea to gauge what their reaction might be first, but you may find they're more understanding and supportive than you expect.
Does sexual intercourse hurt the first time?
First time sex can be painful, as the penis entering the vagina can stretch or tear the hymen (the thin layer of skin that partially covers the entrance to the vagina). Not all girls have hymens (they may have been born without one or may have broken it through sport or inserting tampons earlier in life) but if they do and it tears, a girl may bleed a little. She may also find this bleeding continues the next few times she has sex, although once the tear has healed, she shouldn't have any further problems.
Being nervous and tense the first time can mean a girl does not produce enough natural lubrication to allow easy penetration. Nerves can also cause the muscles in a girl's vagina to tense up, making penetration difficult. Both of these problems can make sex more painful.
Is there anything I can do to reduce the pain the first time I have sex?
The most important thing you can do to reduce the pain is to relax. Being relaxed, and absolutely sure you're doing the right thing means you're less likely to involuntarily tighten your vaginal muscles, and more likely to produce natural vaginal lubrication. You could also try using a lubricant, as this will make penetration easier. However if you are using condoms, you must use a water-based lubricant such as KY Jelly (available from most supermarkets and chemists). An oil-based lubricant like Vaseline will cause the latex of the condom to disintegrate.
Is there a "safe time" to have sexual intercourse?
There is no safe time to have unprotected sex if you wish to avoid pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Diseases. STDs can be transmitted whenever an infected person has sex with an uninfected person, and pregnancy is always a possibility, even during a girl's period. Although women are generally only fertile for a few days every month (usually around the middle of the menstrual cycle) most women have no definite way of knowing when this is. Sperm can also survive inside the body for several days, meaning a woman can potentially become pregnant over quite a long period of time. If she has irregular periods, "safe" days can be particularly difficult to predict. Some couples do use the so called 'rhythm' method as a form of contraception, but the success rate is not high, and it also offers no protection from STDs.
Can a girl still get pregnant if a boy pulls out before he ejaculates?
If a boy pulls his penis out before he ejaculates, the girl can still become pregnant. Sperm can be present in pre-cum (the lubricating fluid that leaks from the penis before and during sex) and just a small amount in or around the vagina can be enough to make a woman pregnant.
BOYS:
What is puberty?
Between the ages of 10 and 14 most boys and girls begin to notice changes taking places to their bodies. These changes which take place over a number of years also include emotional changes and are sometimes referred to as puberty.
The changes take place in all boys and girls but they will start at different times. Generally the changes start later for boys than girls. In some people they start before the age of 10. Other people will only start to change after the age of 14. The changes also take place at a different rate in different people. In some people all the changes take place in 2 years. In other people they can take as long as 4 years.
Puberty starts when extra amounts of chemicals called hormones start to be produced in the body. These hormones guide the changes that take place in the body. As well as causing physical changes these hormones also cause emotional changes to occur.
What are the physical changes that take place in boys?
A boy's voice gets deeper, his muscles develop and his chest gets broader. Hair starts to grow under his arms, and on his legs and face. In due course he will need to start shaving.
During this time his penis and testicles will also grow bigger and longer. Hair, often called pubic hair, will also start to grow at the base of his penis. He will start to have erections and he may have wet dreams.
What is an erection?
An erection is when a boy's penis hardens and lengthens. Most erections are not straight, and tend to either have a curvy bend upwards or to either side. Many boys worry that their penis is smaller than other boys', but most penises are around the same size when erect.
What is a wet dream?
A wet dream is when some semen (the sticky liquid that sperm is part of) comes out from a boy's penis while he is asleep. A boy may remember he had a sexual dream. Or he may just notice a wet patch on his pyjamas or on the sheets when he wakes up.
It is a good idea for a boy to wash his testicles and penis, particularly behind his foreskin if he has one, after he has had a wet dream. Because a boy may develop an infection around his penis and testicles if they are not cleaned regularly, it's a good idea to wash them daily.
What does it mean for a boy's voice to break?
This is just a way of saying that a boy's voice will get deeper. Sometimes it can happen very quickly, perhaps even overnight. Other boys may have a time when their voice is higher at one moment and then lower even a minute later. All boys' voices will eventually settle down and sound deeper (lower pitch).
What can a boy do if He get spots?
Almost everybody has spots at some time during their life. Most young people get spots around puberty. Washing your face more often with mild unperfumed or antiseptic soap and warm water may help. Some people find that not eating certain foods such as chips and chocolate can help. Other people say this won't help because it is the higher level of hormones in the body that is causing the spots to occur. For some people drinking lots of water can be very effective in helping prevent spots.
It is important to try not to pick at, or squeeze, the spots as this can cause them to become infected. It may help to use some special anti-acne cream or lotion. You can buy this from chemists and some. If you get very bad spots, it might be acne which your doctor can help with by giving you pills or special creams.
He gets an erection when he doesn't want to?
He can try sitting down and concentrating on something else.
He is not having wet dreams?
This is nothing to worry about as not every boy has wet dreams.
Someone says he smells?
As boys and girls' bodies develop during puberty so too do their sweat glands. These glands are to help control the body's temperature and result in more sweat being produced. The best way to reduce the risk of smelling is to wash and change your clothes regularly and perhaps use anti-perspirant deodorant on especially smelly areas, e.g. under your arms.
He is being bullied because of his size?
If a boy is being bullied because of his size or for any other reason, then he should talk to an adult.
He is unhappy about the way he looks?
Height and weight are the two things that can particularly worry young people. But try and think about things you like about yourself and the way you look. Also remember that your body is changing and will keep changing.
GIRLS:
What is puberty?
Between the ages of 10 and 14 most boys and girls begin to notice changes taking places to their bodies. These changes which take place over a number of years also include emotional changes and are sometimes referred to as puberty.
The changes take place in all boys and girls but they will start at different times. Generally the changes start later for boys than girls. In some people they start before the age of 10. Other people will only start to change after the age of 14. The changes also take place at a different rate in different people. In some people all the changes take place in 2 years. In other people they can take as long as 4 years.
Puberty starts when extra amounts of chemicals called hormones start to be produced in the body. These hormones guide the changes that take place in the body. As well as causing physical changes these hormones also cause emotional changes to occur.
What are the physical changes that take place in girls during puberty?
A girl's breasts will start to grow and her hips get rounder. Hair will start to grow under her arms. Hair, often called pubic hair, will also grow between her legs. She will also start to have periods.
What is a period?
When a girl "has her period", a small amount of bleeding (a few spoonfuls) takes place from her vagina. The vagina is a small opening that girls have between their legs. The bleeding will last for a few days and usually happens every month. This bleeding is sometimes referred to as menstruation and is not something to be scared of. Some girls get a white stain in their panties before they have had their first period, and this means their first period may begin soon.
Most girls will have their first period between the ages of 11 and 14. But some girls will start as early as 8, whilst others may be as late as 17.
Once a girl has had her period a few times she may notice that her body or mood changes slightly beforehand. For example, her breasts may feel sore, or become larger, or she may get spots on her face. But no one can tell if a girl has her period just by looking at her.
How does a girl stop blood getting on her clothes during her period?
When a girl has her period she can use sanitary towels or tampons to soak up the blood. Most girls start by using sanitary towels.
Sanitary towels are thin pads made of a soft cotton-like material. They are worn by a girl inside her panties. Most towels have a sticky strip on them that sticks the pad to the inside of the girl's panties.
A tampon is like a small rolled up piece of cotton wool with a string at one end. A girl pushes a tampon into her vagina leaving the string hanging outside her body. The string is then used to pull the tampon out. Some tampons also come with cardboard or plastic applicators that insert the tampon for you. As a tampon is put into the vagina there is no problem about going to the toilet when using a tampon.
Sanitary towels and tampons can both be bought in supermarkets and chemists. They usually come in packets of about 10 or 15. Towels and tampons come in different thicknesses so you can use a thicker one when the bleeding is heavier, and thinner ones for lighter bleeding.
In areas where tampons and towels are not available, or are too expensive to afford, many women will use rags or old strips of cloth or towelling to soak up the blood. "Menstrual cups" (small latex or silicone cups that are inserted into the vagina to collect the blood) are also available from chemists in some countries, and most can be washed and reused many times.
How often does a sanitary towel or tampon need to be changed and how do you dispose of them?
A sanitary towel should be changed every few hours during the day, even if the flow of blood is not very great. A sanitary towel can be used overnight without changing. Tampons should be changed several times a day and a tampon should not be used overnight. Changing tampons is particularly important because if a girl forgot to change a tampon for a long time, perhaps 24 hours or more, then it could make her ill.
Used sanitary towels and tampons should be wrapped up and put in a bin. In most women's public toilets there is a special bin in each cubicle which used sanitary towels and tampons can be put in.
Do periods hurt?
Some girls feel uncomfortable or have cramp-like pains when they have periods. For some girls the pain can be quite intense and it may be necessary to talk to a doctor about it. Usually the pain is not very bad and does not last very long. If you have any difficulty you should talk to an adult, as there are a number of things that can be done to help.
When a girl has her period she can do the things she normally does including having a bath or shower. Washing the vaginal area daily helps prevent infections developing. But it's a good idea to wash and dry from front to back to avoid spreading germs to the vagina.
When having a bath the amount of blood will not be enough to change the colour of the water. If a girl is using a tampon she should take it out before having a bath or shower and use a new one afterwards. If a girl wants to go swimming whilst she has her period she should use a tampon rather than a sanitary towel.
When does a girl need to start wearing a bra?
There is no set time when a girl needs to start wearing a bra and some girls go through life never wearing one. Girls who wear a bra usually do so because they feel more comfortable wearing one. Some girls wear a bra only when they are doing sports, others wear one all the time except when sleeping. Bras are made with different size cups for different breast sizes.
Often one breast grows faster than the other. Some girls' breasts remain small throughout their adult lives. Some girls find that their breasts or nipples start to tingle or itch whilst they grow. But these feelings stop when the breast stops growing.
It is not necessary to wear a bra to keep breasts healthy.
What can a girl do if She gets spots?
Almost everybody has spots at some time during their life. Most young people get spots around puberty. Washing your face more often with mild unperfumed or antiseptic soap and warm water may help. Some people find that not eating certain foods such as chips and chocolate can help. Other people say this won't help because it is the higher level of hormones in the body that is causing the spots to occur. For some people drinking lots of water can be very effective in helping prevent spots.
It is important to try not to pick at, or squeeze, the spots as this can cause them to become infected. It may help to use some special anti-acne cream or lotion. You can buy this from chemists and some supermarkets. If you get very bad spots it might be acne which your doctor can help with by giving you pills or special creams.
Her period starts and she doesn't have a sanitary towel or tampon?
A girl can always use something soft like tissues, or rolled-up toilet paper inside her panties to soak up the blood until she can get a sanitary towel or tampon.
Her period starts when she is at school?
If you are at school you should ask a friend or a teacher or other adult if they could help. There might be some sanitary towels in the school office as it quite often happens that a girl's period starts unexpectedly.
Someone says she smells?
As boys and girls' bodies develop during puberty so too do their sweat glands. These glands are to help control the body's temperature and result in more sweat being produced. The best way to reduce the risk of smelling is to wash and change your clothes regularly and perhaps use anti-perspirant deodorant on especially smelly areas, e.g. under your arms. However, most girls do not need to use a vaginal deodorant, and these may cause irritation.
Her period doesn't start when she expects it to?
When a girl first starts having periods they can occur at very irregular intervals. It can often take a couple of years before a girl's periods settle down and occur at regular intervals. The interval between periods is then usually about 28 days (a month).
Changes in your emotions can also cause changes to your periods. For example, worry about a period starting can sometimes cause further delay to the period.
However if you have had sexual intercourse you could be pregnant if your period does not start when you expect it to. You must in these circumstances talk to an adult or see a doctor as soon as possible.
She is being bullied because of her size?
If a girl is being bullied because of her size or for any other reason, then she should talk to an adult.
She is unhappy about the way she looks?
Height and weight are the two things that can particularly worry young people. But try and think about things you like about yourself and the way you look. Also remember that your body is changing and will keep changing.
PUBERTY GENERAL REPRODUCTION:
Some more about a girl's sex organs:
The opening to the vagina is one of three small holes that a girl has between her legs. At the front is the urethral opening which a girl urinates (wees) through. The anus is the opening at the back where she defecates (poos) from.
From the vaginal opening in the middle there is a passageway or tube called the vagina which leads to a girl's internal sex organs. When a girl has her period the blood comes out through her vagina.
Inside the vagina is a thin skin called a hymen. The hymen partly covers the vaginal opening, but there is still enough of a gap for blood to get through.
Another important sex organ is the clitoris. This is about the size of a pea and it is at the front of a girl's outside sex organs. The outer lips (labia) of a girls sex organs, the clitoris and the vaginal opening are together known as the vulva.
Some more about a boy's sex organs:
The boy's sex organs outside his body are his penis and testicles (testes).
A boy's penis hangs down between his legs at the front of his body. The main part of the penis is called the shaft. The end of the penis is called the glans. The foreskin is skin that covers the glans. Usually it can be pulled back quite easily. If it is tight it can be stretched by gently pulling it over the glans. All boys are born with a foreskin, but some have it removed whilst they are a baby. This removal of the foreskin is called circumcision.
The scrotum is a loose wrinkly pouch of skin that hangs down behind a boy's penis. It contains the testicles (testes). As a boy goes through puberty his testicles move lower down his scrotum. One of the testicles usually hangs lower than the other.
Eggs and sperm:
A girl has two ovaries inside her body. These ovaries contain a girl's sex cells or eggs. During puberty the ovaries begin to release eggs. Usually they will release one egg every month. These eggs are very small, each one being no bigger than the head of a needle.
A boy's sex cells are called sperm and they are even smaller than a girl's eggs. At puberty a boy's testicles will start making sperm. Sperm leaves a boy's body through his penis, usually when it is hard and erect. This is known as ejaculation. When a boy ejaculates millions of tiny sperm are sent from his testes up through his penis and out through the end.
When sperm from a boy meets up with an egg from a girl they can join together, and from this a baby grows. This joining is sometimes called fertilisation.
How do sperm and an egg meet? - Sexual intercourse
Sperm and an egg can meet when a boy and a girl have sexual intercourse. Sexual intercourse is when a boy's hard penis goes inside a girl's vagina, and he then ejaculates sperm through his penis.
A boy is physically able to become a parent when he first starts to ejaculate sperm. A girl is physically able to become a parent when her ovaries start to produce eggs.
What happens to an egg if it meets with any sperm?
When an egg is released from a girl's ovaries it travels down inside one of her fallopian tubes towards the uterus or womb. Whilst this is happening the uterus starts to get ready for a fertilised egg by developing a thick lining. If the egg is fertilised on the way, then it settles in the uterus and this is where the baby starts to develop.
What happens to an egg if it does not meet with any sperm?
When the egg is not fertilised, there is no need for the thick lining of the uterus. The lining slowly begins to come away and flows through the cervix or "neck" of the uterus which connects the uterus to the vagina. It then comes out of the girl's body through the vagina. This is the blood that comes out when a girl has her period. As soon as a girl starts to have her period her ovaries start getting ready to release another egg. The length of time between one period and the next is the menstrual cycle.
What are the main physical signs of sexual feelings?
The main sign for boys that they are getting sexually excited is when they get erections.
The main sign for girls is when their vagina begins to get moist. The clitoris gets bigger too.
For both boys and girls when they are sexually excited or "turned on", extra blood comes to the surface of the skin, particularly around the penis and vagina. You can feel warm and sensitive and sexy just about anywhere on your body.
At what age do boys and girls start to get sexual feelings?
A person can have sexual feelings any time in their life, but these change around puberty. You might find some sexual feelings just seem to happen to you. But sexual feelings mostly come about from things you choose to do, either on your own or with someone else.
A main way that people express their sexual feelings is by touching their own genitals. This is called masturbation. Some people don't masturbate at all, or hardly ever. Other people masturbate every day. Masturbation does not cause you any harm.
Some girls enjoy touching their clitoris. Many boys enjoy touching their penis, particularly the tip.
When a person is masturbating they become more and more sexually excited. They may then reach a peak of sexual excitement which is called having an orgasm or "coming". This is when all the tension and excitement that has built up is suddenly released. Boys ejaculate when they have an orgasm and their penis will then go limp.
For many people masturbation is their first sexual experience. Some people refer to masturbation as playing with yourself, or, especially with boys, jerking off, a hand job, or wanking.
Sexual feelings in relationships
When people have sexual feelings for each other they will usually want to do sexual things together. There is no set time or order in which to do things.
They often want to kiss and cuddle and hold hands. When people kiss they sometimes 'French kiss'. This is when both people open their mouths when they are kissing and their tongues touch together.
People also like to touch each other through their clothes or put their hands inside to stroke or touch each other's genitals.
There are a variety of other sexual activities that people will also do including sexual intercourse.
It can seem natural to bring sexual feelings into a relationship. But it can also change how people feel about each other and about themselves. You might want to do something because you feel curious about it. Or because you think it will make you feel good. And you might want to do it because you feel very close to someone.
But it's important not to do any of these things because you feel under pressure. And that you think about the consequences and how you'll feel afterwards.
Sexual intercourse:
Sexual intercourse is when a boy's hard penis goes inside a girl's vagina. This is often called having sex or making love. For many people this can be the most important sexual thing they can do with someone. It can be very enjoyable and fulfilling. For some people it can be the way they can most show their love for each other.
But there are a lot of things to consider. A girl can become pregnant from having sexual intercourse. There are also infections that boys and girls can get if they have sexual intercourse with a person who already has the infection. These are called sexually transmitted infections or diseases. A person can't always tell if they've got one.
You also need to think about your feelings and what you believe. If you have sex because you were pressurised, were drunk or were just curious to know what it would be like, then you may regret it later.
You also need to consider the law. In England it is against the law for a boy to have sexual intercourse with a girl who is under 16.
Pregnancy
If a boy and a girl have sexual intercourse the girl can get pregnant.
She can become pregnant even if:
She has not had her first period;
The boy withdraws his penis from her vagina before he ejaculates;
She is having her period;
It is the first time she has had sexual intercourse.
The first sign that a girl may be pregnant is that her period does not start when she expects it to. If this happens then it is very important to see a doctor or talk to some other adult as soon as possible.
Contraception can be used to prevent pregnancy occurring when a boy and girl have sexual intercourse. Some contraceptives, like the contraceptive pill, are used by girls. Boys can use condoms. Condoms also prevent sexually transmitted infections from being passed from an infected person to another person during sexual intercourse.
Help and Advice
Puberty is a time when you are going through many emotional and physical changes. There may be times when you feel concerned about what is happening to you or how you feel. It can be really hard to do, but it can really help to talk to other people.
It can be really helpful to talk to your parents or guardian. If you can't, or as well as talking to them, there are other people who can help. You might be able to talk to someone at school, either a teacher or another adult.
FAQS:
How does the law in my state/country apply when having sex?
What is the average penis size?
My penis is curved. Is that normal?
Does my vagina look the way it should?
How do you ask someone out?
I think I fancy one of my friends - does this mean I'm gay?
I'm gay and I really like someone but I'm not sure if they're gay too. Should I ask them out?
I want to start using birth control - do I have to tell my parents?
Does sexual intercourse hurt the first time?
Is there anything I can do to reduce the pain the first time I have sex?
I'm not sure I am ready to have sex yet.
Is there a "safe time" to have sexual intercourse?
Can a girl still get pregnant if a boy pulls out before he ejaculates?
Where next?
How does the law in my country/state apply when having sex?
Laws about sex vary depending on which country or which state (if you are in the US) you live in. The most important thing to know however is the age of consent. This is the age at which it is legal to have sex. In England and Wales, the law says that it's illegal for a boy to have sex with a girl or a boy who is under sixteen. In other places, the age of consent may be older of younger than this, and it may be that there is a maximum age gap that is permitted between partners. To find out about the law and the age of consent where you live, please visit our page on Teen sex for further details.
What is the average penis size?
Penis size differs from person to person. The average length when erect is 10-18cm (4-7in) but there maybe some variation between different races and nationalities.
My penis is curved. Is that normal?
It is quite normal for a man's penis to curve or lean slightly to the right or the left when erect. Many men's penises will curve upwards too. If the penis suddenly develops a lump which causes it to bend abnormally however, this should probably be checked by a doctor. It may be a sign of a condition called Peyronie's disease, which isn't life threatening, but may be uncomfortable and require treatment. You can find a diagram of the male sex organs on AVERT's website.
Does my vagina look the way it should?
Vaginas come in all different shapes and sizes, just as other parts of the body do, so there is no set way that a vagina should look.
A woman's sex organs are protected by two thick folds of skin or "lips" called the outer labia. Inside these is another set of lips known as the inner labia. These are thinner than the outer labia and are usually slightly different lengths. In some women the inner labia will stick out below the outer labia. In other women it will be the other way round. Women also have a clitoris, which is a small sensitive bump a little way above the urethra (urine hole) and the entrance to the vagina. You can find a basic diagram of the vaginal area on the AVERT website, but remember, this is just an anatomical drawing - you shouldn't expect your vagina to look exactly like this!
I want to start using birth control - do I have to tell my parents?
In some countries such as the USA and UK, young people are entitled to advice and free contraceptives from their doctor in confidence. If you are unsure or live outside the USA or UK may need to check with your doctor or local clinic what their policy on confidentiality is.
Although it may be embarrassing (both for you and your parents), it can sometimes really help to talk things through with an adult. It's probably a good idea to gauge what their reaction might be first, but you may find they're more understanding and supportive than you expect.
Does sexual intercourse hurt the first time?
First time sex can be painful, as the penis entering the vagina can stretch or tear the hymen (the thin layer of skin that partially covers the entrance to the vagina). Not all girls have hymens (they may have been born without one or may have broken it through sport or inserting tampons earlier in life) but if they do and it tears, a girl may bleed a little. She may also find this bleeding continues the next few times she has sex, although once the tear has healed, she shouldn't have any further problems.
Being nervous and tense the first time can mean a girl does not produce enough natural lubrication to allow easy penetration. Nerves can also cause the muscles in a girl's vagina to tense up, making penetration difficult. Both of these problems can make sex more painful.
Is there anything I can do to reduce the pain the first time I have sex?
The most important thing you can do to reduce the pain is to relax. Being relaxed, and absolutely sure you're doing the right thing means you're less likely to involuntarily tighten your vaginal muscles, and more likely to produce natural vaginal lubrication. You could also try using a lubricant, as this will make penetration easier. However if you are using condoms, you must use a water-based lubricant such as KY Jelly (available from most supermarkets and chemists). An oil-based lubricant like Vaseline will cause the latex of the condom to disintegrate.
Is there a "safe time" to have sexual intercourse?
There is no safe time to have unprotected sex if you wish to avoid pregnancy and Sexually Transmitted Diseases. STDs can be transmitted whenever an infected person has sex with an uninfected person, and pregnancy is always a possibility, even during a girl's period. Although women are generally only fertile for a few days every month (usually around the middle of the menstrual cycle) most women have no definite way of knowing when this is. Sperm can also survive inside the body for several days, meaning a woman can potentially become pregnant over quite a long period of time. If she has irregular periods, "safe" days can be particularly difficult to predict. Some couples do use the so called 'rhythm' method as a form of contraception, but the success rate is not high, and it also offers no protection from STDs.
Can a girl still get pregnant if a boy pulls out before he ejaculates?
If a boy pulls his penis out before he ejaculates, the girl can still become pregnant. Sperm can be present in pre-cum (the lubricating fluid that leaks from the penis before and during sex) and just a small amount in or around the vagina can be enough to make a woman pregnant.
AIDS......III
CONDOM IT’S IMPORTANCE
To consolidate awareness about the correct use of condoms.
What you will need
Chairs in a circle; a packet of condoms; something to demonstrate putting the condom on, such as a vegetable; paper and pens. If you have not demonstrated condom use before then it can be helpful to practice before. The information on the using condoms page may be useful.
Time - up to 60 minutes, depending on the size of the group.
What you do
Explain that participants will be producing leaflets or posters on how to use a condom correctly. You are going to show them and they are going to take notes.
Hand out paper and pens.
Demonstrate condom use on the vegetable or whatever else you have.
Ask each participant, or small groups of 3 or 4, to design a poster or leaflet showing people of their age how to use a condom.
Discuss the finished products and pin them up.
Likely Outcomes
Some of the techniques associated with condom use will be clarified, and a series of resources will have been produced which can be used with other groups, or left to provoke discussion and debate.
Why do I need to use a condom?
Condoms are the only form of protection which can both help to stop the transmission of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) such as HIV and prevent pregnancy.
Getting ready, Choosing the right condom
A number of different types of condom are now available. What is generally called a condom is the 'male' condom, a sheath or covering which fits over a man's penis, and which is closed at one end.
There is also now a female condom, or vaginal sheath, which is used by a woman and which fits inside her vagina. The rest of this page is about the male condom.
What are condoms made of?
Condoms are usually made of latex or polyurethane. If possible you should use a latex condom, as they are slightly more reliable, and in most countries they are most readily available.
Latex condoms can only be used with water based lubricants, not oil based lubricants such as Vaseline or cold cream as they break down the latex. A small number of people have an allergic reaction to latex and can use polyurethane condoms instead.
Polyurethane condoms are made out a type of plastic. They are thinner than latex condoms, and so they increase sensitivity and are more agreeable in feel and appearance to some users. They are more expensive than latex condoms and slightly less flexible so more lubrication may be needed. However both oil and water based lubricants can be used with them.
It's not clear whether latex or polyurethane condoms are stronger – there are studies suggesting that either is less likely to break. With both types however, the likelihood of breakages is very small if used correctly.
The lubrication on condoms also varies. Some condoms are not lubricated at all, some are lubricated with a silicone substance, and some condoms have a water-based lubricant. The lubrication on condoms aims to make the condom easier to put on and more comfortable to use. It can also help prevent condom breakage.
Spermicides and Nonoxynol 9
Condoms and lubricants sometimes contain a spermicide called Nonoxynol 9. Nonoxynol 9 was thought in the past to help to prevent pregnancy and the transmission of HIV and other STDs, but it is now know to be ineffective.
Some people have an allergic reaction to Nonoxynol 9 that can result in little sores, which can actually make the transmission of HIV more likely. Because of this, you should only use condoms and lubricants containing Nonoxynol 9 if you are HIV negative and know that your partner is too. However, using a condom (even if it contains Nonoxynol 9) is much safer than having unprotected sex.
What shapes are there and which should I choose? What about flavoured condoms?
Condoms come in a variety of shapes. Most have a reservoir tip although some do have a plain tip. Condoms may be regular shaped (with straight sides), form fit (indented below the head of the penis), or they may be flared (wider over the head of the penis).
Ribbed condoms are textured with ribs or bumps, which can increase sensation for both partners. Condoms also come in a variety of colours.
It's up to you which shape you choose. All of the differences in shape are designed to suit different personal preferences and enhance pleasure. It is important to communicate with your partner to be sure that you are using condoms that satisfy both of you.
Some condoms are flavoured to make oral sex more enjoyable. They are also safe to use for penetrative sex as long as they have been tested and approved.
What about the condom size?
Condoms are made in different lengths and widths, and different manufacturers produce varying sizes.
There is no standard length for condoms, though those made from natural rubber will in addition always stretch if necessary to fit the length of the man's erect penis.
The width of a condom can also vary. Some condoms have a slightly smaller width to give a "closer" fit, whereas others will be slightly larger. Condom makers have realised that different lengths and widths are needed and are increasingly broadening their range of sizes.
The brand names will be different in each country, so you will need to do your own investigation of different names. There is no particular best brand of condom. There are details of web sites of condom manufacturers on our links page, where you can find information about their products and contact information.
So when do you use a condom?
You need to use a new condom every time you have sexual intercourse. Never use the same condom twice. Put the condom on after the penis is erect and before any contact is made between the penis and any part of the partner's body. If you go from anal intercourse to vaginal intercourse, you should consider changing the condom.
Where can I get condoms?
Where are no age limitations on buying condoms. Buying a condom no matter how old you are shows that you are taking responsibility for your actions. Family planning and sexual health clinics provide condoms free of charge. Condoms are available to buy from supermarkets, convenience stores and petrol/gas stations. Vending machines selling condoms are found in toilets at many locations. You can also order then online from different manufacturers and distributors. There are web sites details of condom manufacturers on our links page.
How can I check a condom is safe to use?
Condoms that have been properly tested and approved carry the British Standard Kite Mark or the EEC Standard Mark (CE). In the USA, condoms should be FDA approved, and elsewhere in the world, they should be ISO approved. To find out more about condom testing see our Condoms history, effectiveness and testing page.
Condoms have an expiration (Exp) or manufacture (MFG) date on the box or individual package that tells you when it is safe to use the condom until. It's important to check this when you use a condom. You should also make sure the package and the condom appear to be in good condition.
Condoms can deteriorate if not stored properly as they are affected by both heat and light. So it's best not to use a condom that has been stored in your back pocket, your wallet, or the glove compartment of your car. If a condom feels sticky or very dry you shouldn't use it as the packaging has probably been damaged.
How do you use a condom?
Open the condom package at one corner being careful not to tear the condom with your fingernails, your teeth, or through being too rough. Make sure the package and condom appear to be in good condition, and check that if there is an expiry date that the date has not passed.
Place the rolled condom over the tip of the hard penis, and if the condom does not have a reservoir top, pinch the tip of the condom enough to leave a half inch space for semen to collect. If the man is not circumcised, then pull back the foreskin before rolling on the condom.
Pinch the air out of the condom tip with one hand and unroll the condom over the penis with the other hand. Roll the condom all the way down to the base of the penis, and smooth out any air bubbles. (Air bubbles can cause a condom to break).
If you want to use some extra lubrication, put it on the outside of the condom. But always use a water-based lubricant (such as KY Jelly or Liquid Silk) with latex condoms, as an oil-based lubricant will cause the latex to break. Click here to see picture of lubricants.
The man wearing the condom doesn't always have to be the one putting it on - it can be quite a nice thing for his partner to do.
What do you do if the condom won't unroll?
The condom should unroll smoothly and easily from the rim on the outside. If you have to struggle or if it takes more than a few seconds, it probably means that you are trying to put the condom on upside down. To take off the condom, don't try to roll it back up. Hold it near the rim and slide it off. Then start again with a new condom.
When do you take off the condom?
Pull out before the penis softens, and hold the condom against the base of the penis while you pull out, so that the semen doesn't spill. Condom should be disposed properly for example wrapping it in a tissue and throwing it away. It's not good to flush condoms down the toilet - they're bad for the environment.
What do you do if a condom breaks?
If a condom breaks during sexual intercourse, then pull out quickly and replace the condom. Whilst you are having sex, check the condom from time to time, to make sure it hasn't split or slipped off. If the condom has broken and you feel that semen has come out of the condom during sex, you should consider getting emergency contraception such as the morning after pill.
What condoms should you use for anal intercourse?
With anal intercourse more strain is placed on the condom. You can use stronger condoms (which are thicker) but standard condoms are just as effective as long as they are used correctly with plenty of lubricant. Condoms with a lubricant containing Nonoxynol 9 should NOT be used for anal sex as Nonoxynol 9 damages the lining of the rectum increasing the risk of HIV and other STD transmission.
Is using a condom effective?
If used properly, a condom is very effective at reducing the risk of being infected with HIV during sexual intercourse. Using a condom also provides protection against other sexually transmitted diseases, and protection against pregnancy. In the laboratory, latex condoms are very effective at blocking transmission of HIV because the pores in latex condoms are too small to allow the virus to pass through. However, outside of the laboratory condoms are less effective because people do not always use condoms properly. To find out more about the effectiveness of condoms, go to our Condom history, effectiveness and testing page.
How do you dispose of a used condom?
All condoms should be disposed of by wrapping in tissue or toilet paper and throwing them in the bin. Condoms should not be flushed down the toilet as they may cause blockages in the sewage system and pollution.
Latex condoms are made mainly from latex with added stabilizers, preservatives and vulcanizing (hardening) agents. Latex is a natural substance made form rubber trees, but because of the added ingredients most latex condoms are not biodegradable. Polyurethane condoms are made from plastic and are not biodegradable. Biodegradable latex condoms are available from some manufacturers.
There are many reasons to use condoms when having sex. You could go through these reasons with your partner and see what she/he thinks.
Reasons to use condoms
Condoms are the only contraceptive that help prevent both pregnancy and the spread of sexually transmitted diseases (including HIV) when used properly and consistently.
Condoms are one of the most reliable methods of birth control when use properly and consistently.
Condoms have none of the medical side-effects of some other birth control methods may have.
Condoms are available in various shapes, colours, flavours, textures and sizes - to increase the fun of making love with condoms.
Condoms are widely available in pharmacies, supermarkets and convenience stores. You don't need a prescription or have to visit a doctor.
Condoms make sex less messy.
Condoms are user friendly. With a little practice, they can also add confidence to the enjoyment of sex.
Condoms are only needed when you are having sex unlike some other contraceptives which require you to take or have them all of the time.
Here are also some tips that can help you to feel more confident and relaxed about using condoms.
Confidence tips
Keep condoms handy at all times. If things start getting steamy - you'll be ready. It's not a good idea to find yourself having to rush out at the crucial moment to buy condoms - at the height of the passion you may not want to.
When you buy condoms, don't get embarrassed. If anything, be proud. It shows that you are responsible and confident and when the time comes it will all be worthwhile. It can be more fun to go shopping for condoms with your partner or friend. Nowadays, it is also easy to buy condoms discreetly on the internet.
Talk with your partner about using a condom before having sex. It removes anxiety and embarrassment. Knowing where you both stand before the passion stands will make you lot more confident that you both agree and are happy about using a condom.
If you are new to condoms, the best way to learn how to use them is to practice putting them on by yourself or your partner. It does not take long to become a master.
If you feel that condoms interrupt you passion then try introducing condoms into your lovemaking. It can be really sexy if your partner helps you put it on or you do it together.
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